***This part is really not meant for the masses. We know so many people that love and adore their children. All parents are of course entitled to vent, be exhausted and have a break. I suppose this is more for the people that choose negativity over positivity while raising their children. Read on if you would like.
Let me start with something I'll never forget. There was a family I watched recently while I was waiting to get a haircut. She had 3 sweet kids with her, all well-behaved and relatively quiet for young children. She was upset with them for no reason, like they were bugging her just by being there. You could tell how broken their little spirits were, and it made me want to cry. I suppose it was because of this that reminded me of people who can't look past the burden of parenthood...thus producing this rant and going hand-in-hand with a few comments made to me about becoming a mom.
"Our new chapter" is the best way I can refer to the newest development in our lives. It doesn't convey negativity or unreasonable expectations. It just conveys a continuation of our journey. Are we freaking thrilled?? Heck, yes. :) We are going in with an open mind!
Since we've announced our pregnancy, I've received a myriad of reactions, such as those below (Pardon the sarcasm about to ensue. Perhaps it's my RAGING hormones. Ok, not really.)
- ::cackling laughter from a coworker I barely know:: then he said, "Just you wait until that thing comes out. EVERYTHING will change." (To which I replied in thought, "No, really. Perhaps, that's why we chose to wait 7 years into our marriage. Plus, that's just rude.")
- "Are you excited?" (This one should be a given. We're married, have stability, and I'm not a teenage drug addict. Of course, we're excited!)
- "Congratulations, you two will make great parents!" (Why thank you! We love that most people are excited for us. We feel prepared in the sense that we can find strength and wisdom in the Lord. And He is the best parent, can I get an AMEN?)
The best one I keep hearing is, "Just wait until you have kids!" So, is this supposed to be some kind of sage wisdom?? I don't really get it. Apparently, all of our time, money, and sanity will be lost on this new creature. Oh boy, we can't wait.
Instead, I would like to focus on the good of having a child. God is blessing us! We both realize what a cherished gift this is. If I'm not mistaken, Psalm 127:3 says, "Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him." Cool. Let's focus on that! We get to train this kid in the way he/she should go! I get to do my daughter's hair, or help my son look for bugs. Parenthood is going to be epic!
I'm sure some sleep deprived parents might feel like I'm coming from a place of ignorance because I haven't been there. But, we have seen many friends and family members go through the ups and downs of parenthood, so we feel like we have at least a 1/1000th of an idea of how hard it might be. It simply saddens to me to hear parents talk about their children like they're a burden. Plenty of people out there wish they could have that burden, with sleepless nights and all.... We're praying God will provide us the patience, energy, and excitement to do right by this little lime. Thankful we have him to lean on.
